YOU CAN THRIVE FROM
WOUNDED TO WONDERFUL
9 Things I Believe About You
YOU CAN THRIVE FROM
WOUNDED
TO WONDERFUL
9 Things I Believe About You
1.
Damaged is not doomed
Your past isn’t permanent. No matter how bad your past is, there’s hope that you can have a successful career and a joyful life. Focus on filling your life with positive, practical skills, compassionate interpretations of confusing and stressful events, supportive relationships and meaning. You can build a life that’s even better than your past.
1.
Damaged is not doomed.
Your past isn’t permanent. No matter how bad your past is, there’s hope that you can have a successful career and a joyful life. Focus on filling your life with positive, practical skills, compassionate interpretations of confusing and stressful events, supportive relationships and meaning. You can build a life that’s even better than your past.
2.
Joy and self-acceptance are within your reach.
This is not a privilege reserved only for those who were lucky enough to start out life in a healthy, functional, positive family environment. Even though you may have started out life overloaded with shame, pain, or trauma, you can learn skills and ways of thinking to discover amazing joy for your life and love for the people in it. Starting with learning to love yourself.
2.
Joy and self-acceptance are within your reach.
This is not a privilege reserved only for those who were lucky enough to start out life in a healthy, functional, positive family environment. Even though you may have started out life overloaded with shame, pain, or trauma, you can learn skills and ways of thinking to discover amazing joy for your life and love for the people in it. Starting with learning to love yourself.
3.
While you can’t change the past, you have everything it takes to grow a joyful future.
The pain from your past is your fuel for growth. The depth and vastness of your childhood difficulties give you the capacity for experiencing and deeply appreciating the same expansiveness of the joy that comes with self-acceptance.
3.
While you can’t change the past, you have everything it takes to grow a joyful future.
The pain from your past is your fuel for growth. The depth and vastness of your childhood difficulties give you the capacity for experiencing and deeply appreciating the same expansiveness of the joy that comes with self-acceptance.
4.
You deserve to live a full, happy life in collaboration with people who respect and value you.
There’s nobody else like you in the world, and the world needs you. You are worthy of a good life. The time has come to shift your harsh, critical self-talk that echoes the messages you received as a child into one that is compassionate and healing. Respect and value yourself first, and the world will follow your example.
4.
You deserve to live a full, happy life in collaboration with people who respect and value you.
There’s nobody else like you in the world, and the world needs you. You are worthy of a good life. The time has come to shift your harsh, critical self-talk that echoes the messages you received as a child into one that is compassionate and healing. Respect and value yourself first, and the world will follow your example.
5.
You bring special gifts of resilience and empathy to your career and colleagues.
What you survived from your childhood has made you a survivor. You have insight, perspective, depth of experiences that enrich your relationships at work on a daily basis – and throughout your career over time. When your empathy comes from a place of deep hurt and pain, you’re more able to accept and receive other people where they are in their own healing journey.
5.
You bring special gifts of resilience and empathy to your career and colleagues.
What you survived from your childhood has made you a survivor. You have insight, perspective, depth of experiences that enrich your relationships at work on a daily basis – and throughout your career over time. When your empathy comes from a place of deep hurt and pain, you’re more able to accept and receive other people where they are in their own healing journey.
6.
You can use all your career experiences – negative and positive – to build healthy relationships with yourself and others.
Your day-to-day work life is a wonderful lab for growth and learning how to relate to yourself and others in positive, effective, and inspiring ways. Every day you have the chance to practice how to become less reactive, less triggered by other people’s behaviors, and more inspiring for your colleagues.
6.
You can use all your career experiences – negative and positive – to build healthy relationships with yourself and others.
Your day-to-day work life is a wonderful lab for growth and learning how to relate to yourself and others in positive, effective, and inspiring ways. Every day you have the chance to practice how to become less reactive, less triggered by other people’s behaviors, and more inspiring for your colleagues.
8.
You have precious opportunity to heal your family by taking home what you learn at work.
When you’re at work, you have the chance, every day, to practice your belief in yourself, your self-acceptance, and your joy in discovering your value for the world. Learning how to confidently thrive at work, in a positive, collaborative, productive, hopeful way, gives you the methodology to teach your family at home. When you learn new ways to override the workplace triggers that stem from your past drama and trauma, you can take those exact skills home to positively shape and influence the relationships that are closest to you personally. You become the teacher. You become the healer.
8.
You have precious opportunity to heal your family by taking home what you learn at work.
When you’re at work, you have the chance, every day, to practice your belief in yourself, your self-acceptance, and your joy in discovering your value for the world. Learning how to confidently thrive at work, in a positive, collaborative, productive, hopeful way, gives you the methodology to teach your family at home. When you learn new ways to override the workplace triggers that stem from your past drama and trauma, you can take those exact skills home to positively shape and influence the relationships that are closest to you personally. You become the teacher. You become the healer.
9.
The world needs you to heal, so you can help heal the world.
You’re not alone. When you start to become more comfortable with who you are and when you start to claim the gift of your life as your birthright, you’ll see that others are suffering in secret, just like you. With your new wisdom, you’re in a position to help.
9.
The world needs you to heal, so you can help heal the world.
You’re not alone. When you start to become more comfortable with who you are and when you start to claim the gift of your life as your birthright, you’ll see that others are suffering in secret, just like you. With your new wisdom, you’re in a position to help.
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